Dads2Dads: Give it up for ol’ dad
Posted: Thursday, June 13, 2013 8:00 pm
By: By Tom Tozer & Bill Black
The Messenger 06.13.13
Sunday is Father’s Day, a day when you can recognize ol’ dad for the work he does, the games he attends, the balls he throws, the complaints he listens to, the advice he gives, the example he shows, the sacrifices he makes. It’s a hard job. Dads worry, agonize, balance, strive, wait and wait some more. It’s a lot of responsibility.
So teens, take a moment to thank your dad, express some appreciation, let him know he made a difference in your life. Sunday is a good day to be together, to share time and thoughts.
Get together with your dad and spend some time. Go for a walk. Cook a meal. Pitch a tent. Visit a park or the zoo. Watch a movie, go to a concert or take in a play. Clean out the garage or basement or catch-all closet. Improve something. Give the dog a bath. Visit the library. Read and discuss a book. Grab lunch out or just get coffee. Play a game. Ride bikes.
It doesn’t much matter what you do. But if you spend some time together you can learn more about him and you can show him some appreciation. Thank him for watching out for you, helping you on homework, coming to your play or your ballgame. It can be simple and it doesn’t have to be hard.
Dads — Time
for some reflection
Dad, this Sunday consider what kind of father you are, what example you show to your child, and where you can make improvements. Take the weekend to share some time, strengthen the bond, and understand your offspring a little better.
Think about how you can be a better dad this Sunday. Be honest. Where have you been impatient or absent or unresponsive? What trait(s) would you like to improve? What part of your relationship would you like to strengthen? Promise yourself to do it.
If you’ve been estranged from your child, give some serious thought to how you can improve that relationship and increase your presence in your child’s life. Kids benefit from good parenting. The important thing is that you give it your best try. As Bill Cosby has said “If the new American father feels bewildered and even defeated, let him take comfort from the fact that whatever he does in any fathering situation has a 50 percent chance of being right.”
Dad and teen: Your relationship is one of the most important things you will be involved in. Make sure you do your best to be understanding, encouraging, supportive, patient and forgiving. It’s a lifelong connection. If it’s been terrific, celebrate. If it’s been distant, difficult, or disjointed, take Sunday to reconnect. Try to find some common ground. Leave expectations behind and just be together. You owe it to yourself and to each other.
Happy Father’s Day.
Tom Tozer of Nashville and Bill Black of Murfreesboro may be contacted at Dads2Dads@comcast.net.