Posted: Thursday, May 16, 2013 8:00 pm
Dear Annie: I have an 8-month-old puppy, and I take her to a local dog park so she can run off leash and play with the other dogs, which she loves. In the three months I have been taking her, “Phoebe” has never been attacked or fought with another dog. That was until last night, when Phoebe approached another dog that was on a leash and that dog attacked her. My puppy whimpered and howled while being bitten on her neck and back. I tried to get her away, but the other dog was so vicious.
The owner of the other dog just stood there making no effort to pull his dog away, nor did he apologize. I finally extracted Phoebe from the other dog’s mouth. As I was walking away, the owner said he doesn’t know why his dog doesn’t like other dogs. I was too shaken to reply. Besides, I felt sorry for the vicious dog, wondering what could have happened to make him like that.
Luckily, Phoebe was not severely injured. I did my best to soothe her, but it took several minutes to calm her down. Before I left the park, I warned other owners about the dog that attacked mine.
Why would someone bring a dog that hates other dogs to a dog park? There is a gentleman who arranged for the park to exist and is the “leader.” Should I tell him what happened? I don’t want to get the park shut down, which is why I didn’t call the police. What do I do? — Phoebe’s Human Mom
Dear Mom: If the park has a “leader,” then he is the person to notify. This owner seems ignorant of dog behavior and may have been trying to “socialize” his dog by bringing the animal to a pet-friendly park. But it sounds as if that dog needs training. It would be a kindness for someone to point that out to him and make a referral before an animal is seriously hurt.
Dear Annie: As an alcoholic in recovery, it was interesting to me to observe the self-righteousness in my family about my addiction as they went through their heart surgeries stemming from their addictions to chocolate cake, bacon and cherry pies. They are just as addicted to food as I am to alcohol.
They say it’s “different,” but how is it more legitimate to grab a doughnut when under stress than to pour myself a cocktail? In spite of their heart surgeries and the struggle of carrying 300 pounds on a body designed for 150, they somehow see slamming down a cherry cobbler as acceptable, but my having a beer is a sin.
Moderation in all aspects of our lives might not be a bad idea. — No Hypocrite in Paducah, Ky.
Dear Paducah: Addic-tions, regardless of type, involve the inability to control one’s appetite, whether it be for food, drugs, liquor, gambling, whatever. Unlike most other addictions, however, one cannot give up food altogether. So while we agree that there is hypocrisy, and of course moderation is best, there is in fact a difference between food, which is necessary for life, and alcohol, which is not. Imagine how much harder it would be to control your addiction if you were told that you absolutely must have three shots a day, but not a fourth. Or a beer. Or a replacement from the well-stocked pantry. Not an excuse, mind you. Just an observation.
Dear Annie: I agree with “Retired Teacher” about high school guidance counselors. She is right on the money.
Guidance counselors are not in schools to assist students with personal problems. That isn’t even in their job description. Their primary function is to advise students about the courses they need to graduate. After that, a multitude of assessment responsibilities fill their time. While many may wish they could counsel to the emotional well-being of their students, they simply don’t have the time. — K.
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Published in The Messenger 5.16.13