How to find Mr. Right under the mistletoe

How to find Mr. Right under the mistletoe

Posted: Wednesday, December 7, 2011 8:03 pm
By: Jane Atkinson, Special to The Press

How to find Mr. Right under the mistletoe | Jane Atkinson, Tired of Kissing Frogs?

Jane Atkinson
• Figure out what you’re looking for. Have  you thought hard about what kind of person you’re looking for? One trick is to  visualize your perfect day.
Are you at the beach? Traveling? Is the man with  you quiet or chatty? Is the woman serious or funny?
Does he want children?  Does she go to church? This will help you identify the characteristics and  values of your Mr. or Ms. Right so you can recognize them when he or she comes  along.
• Get happy in your own head. Once again,  it’s all about attraction.
Putting out positive, confident energy will attract  the same. Besides, it’s never a good idea to rely on other people to make us  happy.
If you need to recover from old hurts, lose weight or find a job, take  care of that business first.
• Think you’re ready? Test yourself with this quick  quiz.
1. Are you happy with yourself? (Or are you miserable  because you’ve put on 50 pounds since your divorce?)
2. Are you looking  for someone to rescue you or take care of you? (If you answer “yes” to this  one, you may not be ready.)
3. Is there room in your life for a  relationship? (Or do you have three kids and work a 60-hour week?)
4. Has  enough time passed since your last relationship? (Or are you still  wounded?)
• Now, get yourself fabulous. Rather than, “Why can’t I find a good man?” ask yourself, “Who do I need to become to  attract the man (or woman) who is perfect for me?”
It’s not about changing  you; it’s about being your best you. Part of that is your mojo – your  self-esteem. If your mojo is slipping, you’ll attract control freaks, players  and jerks. Pump it up with a makeover, a workout, a sincere inventory of your  attributes. (Find more mojo-boosters at www.selfmotivationresources.com/selfesteemboosters.php.)
• Get out there! Put on your sexy jeans  get yourself out the door. Where to start looking? If you enjoy working with  your hands, volunteer for a Habitat for Humanity project.
If you’ve always  wanted to learn Italian, take a class. If you love to do yoga, check out a new  studio (ladies, you’ll find a surprising number of guys there.) Perhaps you  find a new church or take a class on Buddhism.
The list of meeting spots for  singles is a long one: bookstores, dance clubs, supper clubs, book clubs,  gyms, golf courses, rowing clubs, dog parks.
According to a news release, Atkinson’s tips come from real-life experience. At 40, she realized she’d been kissing a lot of frogs and found not one prince. She applied the model she developed for her business, tweaked it and came up with “Frog Whisperer” – and a prince of a husband.
Editor’s note: Jane Atkinson is the author of The Frog Whisperer and The Frog Whisperer Journal as well as a Positive Practice audio CD to help women (and men) get mentally ready for meeting their perfect mate. She lives in London, Ontario, with her husband of four years, John.

WCP 12.06.11

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